Telling your Love Story in your wedding

One of the unique features of the handcrafted wedding ceremonies that I co-create is the love story section of the ceremony. The love story is a few paragraphs about your relationship. Because I don’t believe in insert-name-here generic ceremonies. Your ceremony can tell your stories, reflect your personality and sense of humour, and focus on what is important to you.

That’s why I take the time to get to know the couples that I work with. I get you to write out a partnership reflection where you tell me some of your stories–like how you met, what you love and admire about each other, what joy and connection looks like. 

Here’s an example of what a love story sounds like in a ceremony so you get a sense of what I mean. Names, pronouns, and details have been changed in order to protect privacy. Italian references have been preserved because her Nonna said so.

Love Story

Alex and Kayla boogied their way into each other’s hearts, having met at a funk night in Hamilton. Alex has her friend Aliza to thank for doing the heavy lifting of encouraging Alex to go dance with Kayla and her friends. Alex said she went to dance with Kayla with “the grace and class of a freshly born deer on ice.” Aliza also relayed Kayla’s interest in house plants so Alex could have some ins for their texting conversation the next day after she somehow miraculously got their number. The two of them hung out as friends for a few months and were delighted to discover how much fun they had together and watched this relationship blossom.  

When I asked Kayla and Alex to tell me about their love, Kayla said it feels like home, feels like the safety and excitement of coming home to Alex at the end of the day. As they said, “love is partnership; working towards common goals, picking each other up when we’re down and celebrating the small things with each other.” It’s a listening ear to vent about a tough day. Love is the openness of a vulnerable conversation and learning how to care for each other and their relationship. Alex said she’s grateful that their partnership is also a meticulously planned calendar thanks to master organizer Kayla lending their skills to balance out an at-times forgetful Alex. Their partnership sounds like lots of laughter. Kayla said they’re grateful for how much of a goofball Alex is, and how her easy-going golden retriever energy makes them laugh every day. 

The two of them share so much joy together! They love to head out on adventures, be it the quiet of a Sunday morning coffee date, checking out a local concert, or planning big trips they’ve been fortunate to do to like their trip to Iceland.

They enjoy being cozy at home tending their garden boxes or hosting friends, or quality time observing the antics of their cat Noor and dog Beau. Alex told me, "Noor may not approve of Beau as much as he approves of her but every day they work on their relationship and confront their issues to build a strong union based on love and healthy disdain." Alex, you can only do your best to model a healthy relationship to your children, what they do with it is up to them. 
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Kayla and Alex told me how they love to cook together and make family favourites or newly discovered recipes, and splurge occasionally on a fancy dinner out. As Alex told me, she’s grateful that Kayla opened her eyes to this culinary world. Kayla put it more directly when they told me that when they met Alex “her meal game was sad.” Evidenced by one of Alex’s university classics, her philly cheese steak sandwiches—which sounds fancier than it is. Picture Wonder bread, with margarine, Montreal steak spice, and if she was splurging, some cheese. Alex, that’s not food, why did you make your Italian ancestors cry like that? Thankfully there has been a beautiful evolution together, and Kayla and Alex have bountiful veggie gardens, and with Italian sausages curing in the basement, and the shelves stocked with family made tomato sauce and wine, Alex is well on his way to becoming the old Italian woman she dreams of being.